“Don’t make excuses for why you can’t get it done. Focus on all the reasons why you must make it happen”
It’s been a year since I made the suggestion to our general counsel. Since then I’ve had some really good and positive reinforcement and then there are those days when it seems that all the naysayers line up to make my life miserable. That includes the naysayer in my head. Don’t look at me like that. We all have that one voice in the deepest darkest corners of our brains. The one who tells us all the time that we can’t do something. Recently, she has been using the following excuses with me:
- why do you bother? Things are what they are.
- It’s been like this for so long, what makes you think it’s not by design?
- No one cares how hard you’re working!
- You are not smart enough or experienced enough to do this.
- One day you’re going to get found out and it’s going to be really embarrassing.
- Please!!!! You’re old enough to just skate right through and not let this stuff bother you. It’s not going to benefit you anymore.
It’s a very powerful and loud voice which makes it really hard to ignore. So, instead of ignoring it, I acknowledge it and find answers to ITS questions. I find that when I come up with answers the voice becomes a little less annoying and less loud and it actually turns into a helpful friend. By forcing myself to coming up with answers to its questions I force myself to think about what it is that I really want to do and come up with different paths to accomplishing what I set out to accomplish.
Believe me, when I first came up with the idea for a Paralegal Department at this very large company where I work the voice was enormously strong. What are you thinking? They are never going to listen to you. You have been here for a minute. Things have been the same for so long and they work. Lawyers don’t want us to tell them how to do their jobs….who to hire and how to work with them. You are going to ruffle people’s feathers and now is not a good time to to do that. There were plenty of opportunities for me to stop moving forward. I chose to focus on the reasons I had to make it happen.
There are over 200 paralegals in this firm and they are counting on me. Ha!!! Many of them didn’t even know I existed and some of them didn’t even know they wanted this type of organization. However, just like Steve Jobs said (and I”m no Steve Jobs) people don’t know what they want until they want it. I think Ford Said “If I had asked people what they wanted they would have said faster horses.” It could have been someone else who said that…… I’m really not sure. Who said it is not important. I knew I could make a difference, so I did.
This month marks a year and our Paralegal Networks is now chartered in EMEA and APAC. As I write this post I’m getting ready to fly out to Chicago with our General Counsel for a conference where the GC will be address a group of paralegals in Chicago and throughout the rest of the US (working on broadcasting or recording it for EMEA and APAC). We are on our way.
I say all this to tell you that you must believe in yourself. Only you will know how much you can take on and what it is that your vision can being to you and all those around you. I say this to let you know that we all have those voices that will stop us from accomplishing our goals. Those voices are not the enemy. They exist to help us stay away from danger. Listen to that voice but take the risk. Use the voice as a guide and as a friend. Answer the voices questions and calm it down. Become the voices partner and work together.
Hope you enjoyed this post. I am working on doing a series of what the Network is up to and what you can do to start your own network where you work. Having those likeminded people is essential for a healthy and prosperous career.